So what would you tell your younger self?
I often find myself wishing I could tell my younger self some things about how life really works, about what’s real and true, and thereby dissolve some of the harmful preconceptions and assumptions I had way back then. That is a frustrating impossibility, but it’s worth thinking about.
Here are the 15 things I wish I could tell my younger self:
1.Life is good. Not always, but mostly. And when it is not so good, be assured it will get better.
2.It’s a good thing that we don’t know everything that’s going to happen to us. If I had known all the pains and heartaches I would encounter in life, even amidst the joys and victories, it would surely have been too much to bear.
3.If you tend to be shy, try your best to overcome it. Take it a step at a time, but work at it. It is a gift to get to know new people, especially those who are different from you in some way, culturally, ethnically, religiously. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone may be painful for a time, but the benefits are everlasting.
4. It may not be easy to stand up and speak out for what’s important to you, but you will be amazed how empowering, and important, it can be.
5. Accept yourself as God made you.
6. You are not the only person in the world who feels this way, whatever “this way” is that you’re feeling.
7.You are terrific just as you are. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work on your rough edges and areas of ignorance and inexperience.
8. You are on a journey, which means things will change. Even important things will change, sometimes shockingly. But it is a nevertheless a good journey, and it’s worth every step.
9. There is no one person in the whole world who is the one-and-only person God has selected for you to be with forever. So don’t waste time thinking you have to search for that one ideal person. Open yourself up, be patient, and it will all work out.
10. When you do connect deeply with one person, be serious about it. Work at it. Be open and honest with your significant other. It is a rare and wondrous thing to be in relationship, so make every effort to preserve and improve and deepen it.
11. But sometimes, for any number of reasons, it is time to move on, for your sake or theirs, or both. Recognize this.
12. Your parents truly love you and want the best for you. Listen to them. Trust them. Love them. Honor them. But realize you will soon be on your own, and that’s a good thing.
13.Stop watching so much TV. Read more. (Although, young me, you did read an awful lot, so maybe you should get outside and play more.)
14. Work hard and carefully try to figure out a career you will love. This will involve trying different things, new things. I’ve had four primary and very different jobs in my life, and have enjoyed each one (pretty much). Each one moved me forward into what was next.
15.Children are a blessing and a joy. Just keep in mind that they will break your heart and scare you to death more times than you could ever imagine.
Reinvent Yourself! "The pursuit of my own happiness as I escaped a troublesome nightmare in my daring attempt to dream for a different future" by Ivan Sanchez
10 years ago, I was fending for myself in a "boys in the hood" environment while I grieved my superwoman’s death - my mother. As a disoriented teenager desperately wanting escape the negative life style I lived and reinvent myself, I threw myself into what I saw as my clearest means to success: schoolwork.
As I took several fulltime jobs to pay for college, from pushing shopping carts at Kroger’s to selling chocolates at Godiva, I gradually escaped a troublesome nightmare in my daring attempt to dream for a different future. At the time, I unconsciously started the pursuit of my own happiness, but I took charge of my destiny. Through the struggles, broke bank account, naysayers, adversity, and life lessons, I ultimately rejected the narrative of a troubled and directionless youth for the young man you know me as today.
Overcoming the adversity, I faced fueled my desire to serve others, to help them improve their lives, as people are not predestined to misery and failure. And though the current status quo propagandizes people into deficiency, debt, and prison pipelines, as a part of the new generation, I refuse to continue to accept the status quo policies that adversely affect our communities. As my education, has changed me forever, I now take it upon myself to empower disadvantaged communities and beyond.
10 years later, the challenges I faced from a deprived, low socioeconomic teenager, to an empowered congressional liaison, allowed for a continued evolution of adaption and potential for change, but more importantly, it gave me the inspiration to further help the underprivileged as I walked those very shoes. I endeavor to change and achieve, not out of a frenzied state of panic, but because I see the endless possibilities for my life and for the people and the world around me.
If any struggling young people are reading this, rise up, dust yourself off, and find your passion. I want you to know that if I could do it, you truly can as well. Do the best you can, with what you can, while you can, but do it passionately, tirelessly and vigorously. Look in the mirror, that’s your competition. The best achievement in life is doing something people thought you cannot do. It is never too late to reinvent yourself. Prove them wrong, it can be done.
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